The negative calls attention to itself, so it is easier to focus on the negative… [Parents] must not forget the times when the kids did obey and did do the right things… It takes effort to commend the good – much more than it does to condemn the bad.

— Jay Adams (1929–2020), Theologe, Buchautor und Begründer der biblischen/nouthetischen Seelsorge

Topics: Relationships & Family, Ethical Questions

Occasions: For Reflection

Jay Adams

Jay Adams (1929–2020) war ein US-amerikanischer presbyterianisch-reformierter Theologe, Pastor und Autor. Er begründete die nouthetische Seelsorge, die säkulare Psychologie strikt ablehnt und seelische Probleme primär auf sündiges Fehlverhalten zurückführt, das biblischer Zurechtweisung bedarf. Während sein Ansatz in konservativ-evangelikalen Kreisen als Rückbesinnung auf die Bibel geschätzt wird, kritisieren Fachleute und Seelsorger den oft konfrontativen Stil sowie die Vernachlässigung psychischer und organischer Krankheitsursachen.

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