Feelings change. You can’t promise to have a feeling. So if love is a feeling, the marriage vow makes no sense at all. But the vow does make sense because love is not a feeling. What is it, then? Love is a commitment of the will to the true good of another person. Of course, people who love each other usually do have strong feelings too, but you can have those feelings without having love. Love, let me repeat, is a commitment of the will to the true good of another person.

J. Budziszewski (b. 1952), Philosoph, Apologet und Universitätsprofessor

Topics: Relationships & Family, Love

Occasions: Wedding & Marriage, For Reflection

J. Budziszewski

J. Budziszewski (* 1952) ist ein US-amerikanischer Philosoph und Politikwissenschaftler, der seit 1981 als Professor an der University of Texas at Austin lehrt. Der römisch-katholische Denker ist vor allem für seine Erneuerung der thomistischen Naturrechtslehre bekannt und vertritt die These, dass grundlegende moralische Wahrheiten unauslöschlich im menschlichen Gewissen verankert sind. Für Bibelleser bietet er philosophische Begründungen für eine objektive biblische Ethik, wenngleich seine traditionellen gesellschaftspolitischen Positionen im säkularen Diskurs umstritten sind.

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