If it were really true that living together is a trial of marriage, then divorces would be more common among couples who hadn’t first lived together than among couples who had. Actually, just the opposite is true: Divorces are more common among couples who have lived together first than among couples who haven’t. The reason isn’t hard to find. The very essence of marriage is having a binding commitment. The very essence of living together is having no binding commitment. That’s why living together can’t be a trial for marriage, because in everything that matters, the two conditions are opposites. And that’s why not having a binding commitment is less like training for marriage than like training for divorce.
— J. Budziszewski (b. 1952), Philosoph, Apologet und Universitätsprofessor
Topics: Relationships & Family, Ethical Questions, Wisdom & Understanding
Occasions: Wedding & Marriage, For Reflection
J. Budziszewski
J. Budziszewski (* 1952) ist ein US-amerikanischer Philosoph und Politikwissenschaftler, der seit 1981 als Professor an der University of Texas at Austin lehrt. Der römisch-katholische Denker ist vor allem für seine Erneuerung der thomistischen Naturrechtslehre bekannt und vertritt die These, dass grundlegende moralische Wahrheiten unauslöschlich im menschlichen Gewissen verankert sind. Für Bibelleser bietet er philosophische Begründungen für eine objektive biblische Ethik, wenngleich seine traditionellen gesellschaftspolitischen Positionen im säkularen Diskurs umstritten sind.
All quotes by J. Budziszewski (15)
Dietrich Bonhoeffer
When you see a child, you catch God in the act.
Martin Luther
Martin Luther King Jr.
C.S. Lewis
C.S. Lewis
C.S. Lewis
Our sexuality is not our soul, marriage is not heaven, and singleness is not hell.
Jackie Hill Perry
In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.
Martin Luther King Jr.