When you do not understand forgiveness as both an event and a process, discouragement and guilt can set in. This is because your decision to forgive may not immediately heal the hurt, lack of trust, and anger you have towards the person you have forgiven. But if you see forgiveness both as an event and a process, the discouragement and guilt are minimized. You know you have forgiven, even though you are also aware of your temptation to make the person pay for your offense. This awareness keeps you vigilant against sin in your own heart. It leads you to God for His cleansing and strength when you struggle with your attitude towards the person.
— Timothy Lane (b. 1961), Pfarrer, Buchautor und biblischer Seelsorger
Topics: Guilt & Forgiveness, Growth & Character, Faith & Trust
Occasions: For Reflection
Timothy Lane
Der US-amerikanische presbyterianische Pfarrer und Dozent Timothy Lane (* 1961) ist als Seelsorger und langjähriger Leiter der Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF) tätig. Bekannt wurde er vor allem durch praxisnahe Veröffentlichungen zur biblischen Seelsorge sowie zur gnadenzentrierten Lebens- und Beziehungsgestaltung. Für Bibelleser bieten seine Schriften Ansätze, theologische Aussagen über Vergebung und Erneuerung auf zwischenmenschliche Konflikte und alltägliche Herausforderungen anzuwenden.
All quotes by Timothy Lane (7)
I am the prodigal son every time I search for unconditional love where it cannot be found.
Henri Nouwen
There are two ways to do good: to give and to forgive.
Augustine of Hippo
God counts on your failure far more than you do yourself.
Hans Peter Royer
The church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints.
Tim Keller
Forgiveness means allowing the other person not to have to be God.
Henri Nouwen
Love keeps no record of wrongs, but bitterness keeps detailed accounts.
Craig Groeschel
John Newton
Tim Keller